F*ck You stereotypes!!

Posted on: March 30, 2010 - 7:56pm
F*ck You stereotypes!!
I haven't posted here in soooo long

I am so incredibly PISSED OFF not to mention frustrated!!!! I have just had the most irritating conversation with some of my straight friends and a gay guy. Basically they refuse to acknowledge( even laughed it off) the fact that I am not heterosexual simply because I am feminine and my behaviour doesn't reflect what they think a bi/lesbian should be. Heck the gay guy actually thought I was hitting on him ugh when I was simply trying to be friendly, something I find hilarious considering the fact that I have NEVER dated a man in my life believe it or not. Do I look that damn straight??? Only my ex girlfriend seems to take me seriously for obvious reasons and the fact that she is just as girly as I am and faces the same disbelief everyday.

It's so disappointing to learn that in this day and age people have yet to realise that human behaviour is not something that can be neatly categorized and packaged into a little box. We are not clones that all act the same way or conform to out dated and closed minded stereotypes. We are individuals with varied interests and personalities, and yes some gay girls do enjoy being feminine...so what? Don't try to tell ME what I am or what I like just because I don't fit your damn standard. Even in gay bars I have been asked what the hell am I doing in there. It is so upsetting!!!!




Posted on: March 31, 2010 - 1:16pm #1
 
Posted on: March 31, 2010 - 1:19pm #2
 oops... techno challenged here! Yes these limited ideas of how one should act to be the right kind of gay or straight or bi are really silly. I alternately get told that I should act more gay or more straight and I always respond by asking why would I act like something that I am not. I act like Rob and leave it at that.
Pay no attention because the masses can be asses.
Posted on: April 1, 2010 - 5:25pm #3
 i used to see this happen all the time when i was in school, i had a lot of what people would call "lipstick lesbian" friends and guys would constantly ask them out and wouldn't get the hint that they really did like females or would swear they could make them like men. stereotypes are really annoying, like people act so surprised when they find out i like to get manicures and pedicures every once in a while or because i actually know a lot about salon products, like dykes can't know about that stuff or something. but stereotypes are never going to go away, they'll always exist because we live in a fucked up world where appearance is everything.
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Posted on: April 1, 2010 - 5:33pm #4
Thank You...I just needed to vent. I just find it a little disrespectful when others want to tell you who you are or what you are supposed to like based on the way you act or dress. It is a sexual orientation, a very serious one, not a fashion statement.  I can wear my rainbow accesories when the mood strikes me but that stuff isn't really necessary for me to validate myself as a gay girl you know? I am who I am and that's fine. 

I expect that from straight people, but when some people of your own kind write you off for that sort of thing? It stings.


Posted on: April 1, 2010 - 5:36pm #5
Exactly! Sad but true. (@ nick)
Posted on: April 1, 2010 - 8:07pm #6
 yeah, just be glad you don't have to deal with army retards every day that like to make up different names for you such as peter pan, little brother, midget boy. EOD school is a joint school so i'm stuck with stupid privates who think they're sooo funny, it's like being in damn high school again, except they're allowed to smoke on break so they smell worse.
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Posted on: April 1, 2010 - 10:09pm #7
Actually...I am considering enlisting after I graduate so if I do I'm sure I'll have to deal with my share of pigs. Currently working on increasing my body fat to meet the basic standards. Your post reminded me of private school, same story only no smoking (not in plain view anyway). Nothing but a bunch of ignorants..Peter Pan really? >_> Come on..
Posted on: April 3, 2010 - 3:00pm #8
 lol, are you one of those really skinny people? if you join the air force and you're underweight then all they do is put you on an eating waiver and they make you eat a lot and you don't do pt so you can gain weight, which is kinda retarded cuz that kills people's pt scores. you won't have to worry too much about the pigs in the air force, some of the guys are persistent but generally they get the hint that you don't like them, and you'll just be one of the few females who doesn't get a reputation for being a door knob. ya know, they say there's a lot of gay females in the military, i say that's a lie, they're REALLY hard to find, and most of the ones you do find really aren't very cute at all...
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Posted on: April 5, 2010 - 10:37pm #9
 I remember when a guy looked at one of my friends and told her that he could teach her to like guys. The obnoxious git! Anyway I stepped right up and told him that sounded cool and I'd give it a go and see if he could make me like them. He kind of went pale and wandered away mumbling stuff.
Posted on: April 6, 2010 - 12:54am #10
lol good one maestro, um well I am thin but not that skinny really... I am tall though (5'10"). my BMI is right around 20-21% within the healthy range. I just want to tone up a bit more. Hehe Is that so? I can see why they might say there are tons of gays in the army; if they are extremely homophobic seeing 3-5 gays in a group must  seem like a hundred to them.
Posted on: April 6, 2010 - 1:27pm #11
 gah don't get me started on the army... i hate them, they make my life so difficult and make me sooo angry. i would suggest if you're considering joining the military and haven't picked a branch yet, DO NOT GO ARMY, they're completely retarded. i would suggest either air force or navy (air force mostly, cuz well i'm kinda biased XD) both have better job opportunities and better quality of living. and NEVER NEVER go into basic as open general or open anything, that is the worst thing you could ever do, cuz unless you get extremely lucky, you're gunna be a cop.

yeah i don't know much about the BMI percentages and all that, but yeah you are pretty tall and it's easier for taller people to be under their minimum weight even if they're not like terribly skinny. me i'm right at a good weight for my height, usually 10-15 over my minimum, but i'm fairly short 5'4".
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Posted on: April 23, 2010 - 2:55am #12
You know, I have to say!  I understand what you say all too well.  My close personal friends know, but most don't quite get it and are shocked when they find out.  I'm totally open, I don't hide it.  But, it appears I don't fit the stereotype.  My room mate and I are both misleading in that aspect.  I used to think I was very much quite the feminine guy, but to the contrary I am more masculine than my room mate.  He's the one that the customers at the store I work at think is gay, I'm the one they think is straight.

But, where I laugh it off as nothing, even though it bothers me quite a bit, and vent to my friends.  He gets pissed and either makes a fool of himself or ruins his whole day or both. 
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