FATHER!!!! GAH!!!

Posted on: April 24, 2010 - 7:06am
FATHER!!!! GAH!!!
Ok, so here goes it.  I have to get this out before I explode.  Alright, I've been here since my mother's knee replacement.  Most of what I've been doing is running errands for my sister which has taken up to six hours, when really it should only be an hour at most.  That has kept me going practically insane.

My father won't really let me help with my mother for whatever reason he has, not to mention he has lost sleep over it and has gotten extremely grouchy which all that does is make him a total ass toward everyone in including my mother.  Then there is Tessa, she is three and still hasn't been potty trained.

I'm not quite sure where his brain is I practically raised her till I moved in over at my apartment.  Just a moment ago she woke up asked for a sippy cup, which I gave her, then I left the room...  And what did she do, she went to my dad.  I guess cause she thought I left her.  Anyways, she would've went straight to sleep...  Buuu~uut no, he puts cartoons on for her and turns on the light.

Not to mention I told him three, THREE times I had just gave her cup and he still asked her if she needed one.  God, I can not for the life of me figure out why it is he treats me like I'm still a child and not capable of doing anything and taking care of my niece that I raised as my own pretty much! I mean this is getting right down ridiculous as in changing diapers, giving her cups...  I'd almost want to think he's senile.  And he wonders why we get frustrated with him.

And his incessant comments on when I go to sleep!  I'm a freakin adult!  I don't keep them awake, I never have.  I've always been a night owl since as long as I can remember.  I've pretty much had insomnia since I was Tessa's age.  I still go to work, I pay my bills, and not to mention... I'm visiting to HELP and to get away from my annoying apartment that I loathe, but I am beginning to dislike being back home just as much.  In some aspects it was much more pleasant around here when he was still driving out on the road, his retirement has sent this entire household and family into an uproar.

Not to mention, I'm kinda sugar coating it.  He's right down nasty in his rude comments and cold hearted!  Then goes with some of the arguments we get into.  He's a christian, a god faring self ordained preacher.  He's been giving christians a very bad name here recently.
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Posted on: April 24, 2010 - 7:16am #1
Oh, dear. o.o I can't stand people like that. (>_<) *pats head* I apologize sincerely, for it appears your father has a PHd in Douche-baggery. :/
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Posted on: April 24, 2010 - 8:15am #2
She's just now falling back to sleep almost 2 hours later!  I have to be at work at three!  Why didn't he just leave her be?  Gah! I am going to be soooo very tired, already am! 
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Posted on: April 24, 2010 - 12:22pm #3
 Sounds like your father has not yet started to view you as an adult. It happens and some of us parents have a problem in that area. It can be difficult to make the mental shift and realize that another person is still "my" child but is not "a" child. I hope that at some point he realizes this for your sake and the idea that he and you might become friends if he does. I doubt that he is trying to offend you but he is most likely trying to 'father' you and guide you since you are his child and he equates that to being a child which you are not.
I can see a couple of things that might cause him to not allow others to help with your mom and her care. Is it just you as an individual that he stops from helping or is he monopolizing all of her care and not allowing anyone to help? It could be that he wants to or needs to feel that he is taking care of her. He may think that it is supposed to take care of her and equate that as meaning that only he should take care of her and that if others are involved he isn't doing his duty. He may feel that he owes her his complete attention and focus and equate that again with excluding others. He may feel that he should have been able to somehow stop or prevent this and now he owes it to her. He may just love her so deeply that he has tunnel vision and wants to do everything herself so that he can make sure that it is done right. Chances are that he isn't himself sure of what all he is feeling. I imagine that he is feeling some frustration and powerlessness in the situation and he is struggling to gain some control of something somewhere in the situation.
Doesn't mean that it will not be frustrating for you to deal with him, or irritating to put up with him. The preaching is going to be a pain in the backside, that is a given.
Sorry that you are having to deal with all of this but hey I imagine that the little one provides and endless source of cuteness and entertainment. Hope that the next few days are better.
Posted on: April 29, 2010 - 8:26pm #4
Well, that seemed to be the case,  Now I'm almost positive that he is nothing but a hypocrite and a bigot.  I've tried to help, but it seems nothing I do is good enough.  Now my sister, he hates her, come to that conclusion today when he stayed on her all day about things she should or should not be doing.  Today she hadn't been feeling well, so of course she stayed in bed most of the day.

He knows she's on medicine that is like taking chemo.  So, of course there are going to be days she's sleeping.  So, needless to say they got into an argument with her throwing her medicine in the trash.  Well, he contradicted himself saying she needed her medicine and it was pure stupidity for her to throw it in the trash.  Well, does he want her resting or not.  Cause if she's on her medicine she will.

However that may be, it still doesn't justify him strangling her.  A simple smack to the lips would have sufficed if he really wanted her to shut up. 
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Posted on: May 10, 2010 - 10:43am #5
  If he strangled her to shut her up, she really needs to be out of that situation. All other concerns aside, if she is a minor she needs to be protected. If he is willing to be violent with his family he needs to be out of the home, again all other considerations aside.
I urge you to report him to the proper authorities in your state so that they can make sure that your sister is safe in her own home. One of them needs to be out of there I hope that it is him who goes.