First off, you are so not stupid. A lot of people get caught up in relationships and cute boys/girls and do things they don't mean to. 
My advice on friends with benefits, is that it's not for everyone. Especially not  if you still have feelings for this guy, which it kinda sounds like you do. Sorry if I got it wrong, I mean I don't know you and I barely know the situation, but it sounds like you still like him and he is taking advantage of that. It also sounds as though you are coming to a decision point, you're going to have to decide whether you need to end this, or you want to continue having a fwb relationship with this guy. Either which is up to you but ultimately you need to decide. Gray area usually doesn't bode well in these kinds of situations.
Hope it goes well!
-Em

i hate to say it but i guess ur right huh? i need to make a decision...i need to think

Honestly, the best way to learn about relationships is to be in one. So for almost everyone, with rare exceptions, our first relationships are not our last, but they are great learning experiences.

To me, all relationships tell us something about ourselves. In a case like this, what does this tell you about yourself? Also, him wanting to use you as a fuck buddy, what does that tell you about him?

Though I personally would never be comfortable having a "relationship" with someone strictly on a sexual basis, I honor the fact that for many people this is a valid and acceptable set-up. So I'm not going to say that having a "fuck buddy" is wrong.

However, I would be extremely cautious with thinking that an ex would make a good fuck buddy. In an ideal situation, a "good" fuck buddy arrangement is between two people who understand that this is nothing but a quid-pro-quo relationship that can be ended at any time with no hard feelings because there are NO strings attached.

For starters, you have to take an honest look at this: If he is your ex, why stay connected with him? If you're telling yourself, "Oh, we can just be friends", you need to look at your relationship with other friends and determine how many of them you've 1.) made out with and 2.) considered becoming fuck buddies with. I wonder how that list would look in your case?

Finding a boyfriend means having an understanding of what you want and why you want it. This isn't just a one-time decision, and I suspect it changes throughout ones dating life. If having impersonal sex is what you want right now, ask yourself, "why do I want that?" if it's "just to have fun" Okay, fine. If you're more interested in pursuing an intimate relationship, I don't know that casual sex is the best way to find it.

A good question that I like to ask myself when I face problematic is "Why now?"  - Why are you finding this a difficult decision to make right now? Why do you feel the need to keep a connection with him right now? Why do you wonder if you should drop him right now? You may be interested in the answers you find to that question - "Why now?"

I have a few things to ask about ur response to my post
Like this statement:

"For starters, you have to take an honest look at this: If he is your ex, why stay connected with him? If you're telling yourself, "Oh, we can just be friends", you need to look at your relationship with other friends and determine how many of them you've 1.) made out with and 2.) considered becoming fuck buddies with. I wonder how that list would look in your case?"


how is this relavent to anything that i had to say i've made out with none of my other friends and have had no other friends i would consider being fuck buddies with because i've never been atracted to other friends of mine(but that maybe only cause the only other friends i have are girls that are more like my sister rather than a friend and my other friends are straight men) so i really don't understand y this is relavent. if you could please explain wut the hell ur talking about that would be great thanks

If he is your ex there is no reason to not maintain a friendship with him unless it causes you pain to see him. If it doesn't cause you pain then go ahead and maintain social ties. On the other issue, I'm not going to make value judgements on friends with benefits, since I am from an older queer generation where that was the norm. I don't have aproblem with it in general if it is what you can do. But in this specific case, there is an emotional component and relatioinship history. You still feel something emotionally as he may very well do. To then try to just have an occasional physical relationship is most likely not going to be good and it may become emotionally charged. The physical will most likely stir up old feelings. Unless you two are actively trying to rekindle an old flame or start a new relationship I would stay away from the situation of making out etc. and remain friends.

I can tell that you are a person that I would love to be around. You have no problem saying what's on your mind, and I have much respect for someone comfortable enough to be like that :D

Unfortunately with online communication and what not, we (the reader) leave alot of details up to speculation while you (the writer) really know what's going on. Therefore, alot of what we say is probably a stab in the dark. Based on the new information you've provided, I can definitely see how my response would make you think, "WTF?!?"

Friends play an important role in our lives. Different friends play different roles. That's why we have best friends, good friends, casual friends, school friends, acquaintances, etc. The different "degrees of friendship" is based on different boundaries that are upheld bewteen different people. Different friendships play by different rules. You don't relate to some school acquaintance that you did a random group project with in the same way that you relate to your closest, best friend.  Now knowing what we do about your other friends, it's obvious that this situation with this guy is completely different. So we can't possibly place him in the same "category" as your other friends. So instead of asking, "Why stay connected to him", a better question would have been to ask "What keeps you connected to him." If different friends play different roles in our lives, I wonder what role he's playing in yours?

thanks i'm pretty sure i knw wut imma do now but i just needed some advice u knw? and yes i agree with u psychboi i don't ever have a problem saying wuts on my mind in fact sometimes that's wut gets me in trouble