Coming out to Parents XD

Posted on: July 20, 2008 - 8:56am
Coming out to Parents XD
Right let's get down to it. Here is my coming out story :D

I was nineteen whe I decied to come out to my parents I finally got to the point where it was painful to hide who I really was. SHort and sweet story is, I was at home one night on the net called a friend and tol her that she was to be on the phone to me while I told y mother I was a lesbian this came as a awkward point for her cause I hadnt admitted i to her yet although everyone new tha for sure. I called my mum ito the room and sai that I had something to tell her but didnt want her opi heet on it and after I had said i she was to leave the room. At this point my mum is lkooking considerably worried and thinking that I was pregnant (she told me this later sorry mum no cigar lol) I said mum Im a lesbian. my mother trned pale grabbed the door to steady herself looked at me. I  promptly said that she could go. After this we basically did not speak or interact for a whole month in which I hated myself ior what I had admitted. Evenbtually shecame to terms and got over it and said to me atleastnow she doesnt have to worry about me getting pregnant to which my reply was h no i still want kids...awkward silence in which I knew she ws wondering how the hell thats gunna happen.

Two weeks later I went into the city for my first gayt pride march and myself and my girlfriend got to be the head leders for the lesbian part of the parade. woo me.

I asked my mum to tell my dad when I was in the city (he had no idea) my mum said to my dad that I had gone to the city for gay pride and so far have not had anything that shows he knows nor has he breathed a word about it to me...an unspokenthing..

so there you go

so glad I came out best feeling in the world although the month or so of heartache was painful I knew I did the right thing by myself...

god I love being a lesbian

xx

Posted on: July 22, 2008 - 1:40pm #1
Good for you. I'm glad that you feel so relieved and honest.
Posted on: July 24, 2008 - 4:12pm #2
I am so happy for you. :) Very inspiring. Right now I'm hiding who I am, and it's killing meh. Couldn't ask this girl out because, I was too scared of what my sister would say. I love your story.
Posted on: July 24, 2008 - 11:41pm #3

Great to hear! It's always inspiring to hear about how you told your parents. No two stories are ever identical.
 

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Posted on: July 31, 2008 - 7:57am #4
its great 2 hear other ppls stories...


has anyone else got some 2 share??
Posted on: July 31, 2008 - 6:20pm #5
Once upon a time....jk


It sort of happened....for some reason my mom came in my room and told me she thought people were going to think she was gay b/c she likes Ellen Degeneres and Melissa Etheridge alot (she was sort of peppy, especially for her) and I was just like, well, I guess thats good news for me then! And it was one of those sentimental moment things. I had been seriously considering telling her for a couple months by then. And MY mom...I don't know how I ever could have thought it could be like some of the horror stories I've heard. She didn't tell me then but she told me a couple weeks after that she knew the whole time.

That was beginning of junior year in high school. I had come out at school over summer. Good thing I did it then too, b/c I really..exploded out, and the school actually called her up within a few days of that. (and no, it was NOt merited) My dad's side of the family knows nothing. I think they like to think they do. But they're distant and its none of their business anyway.

"The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about."- Oscar Wilde
Posted on: August 14, 2008 - 1:16am #6
You got lucky.  I had one of my best friends tell my parents, and they now are making me see a shrink regularly.  A Christian one too, not a regular licensed one.  I told them I'm not going to any religious camps, but its still really hard to see the people who love you work so hard to try and change you.  We'll see how this goes...
Posted on: August 14, 2008 - 2:22am #7
 oh man when i told my mom, she said she knew... but that didn't mean she liked it. it took her a good year and a half to get over the fact that it's not a "phase" i'm going through. she threatened me with the whole religious counseling thing (i'm mormon so... yeah if you've ever heard the stories... they're true) and did basically everything she could think of to make me straight. but just about the beginning of junior year she finally just kinda gave up and went with it because she saw how miserable she was making me. she kinda caught me at the movies with my gf and freaked out, we had a LONG talk in the car which involved a lot of crying and she gave up. after that she let me go over to my gf's house and visa versa. so i'm pretty much one of the lucky gay mormons. though this year i have to learn to start toning it down cuz i plan on going into the military, which my jrotc sergeant is going to help me with, he's really awesome, his mom and sister are gay and his mom was an air force lifer, so i'm really glad he's helping me out, haha and i guess he totally thinks i'm awesome because i remind him of his mom.

oh and verdict1st, some advice about the religious crap... just don't listen. find something else to think about and zone out while they're talking to you.
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Posted on: August 14, 2008 - 11:19am #8
yeah the school put me in 'counseling' when they found out, and my mom let them even though I was totally against it then. (sometimes I wonder if she was really hiding something) Anyway, the counselor was confused why she had to see me and thought I was doing very well in high school and life and general. So it turned into sessions where she basically inflated my ego and told me how great I was.

After a couple months, the school said I could stop. I'm like hell no! And I saw her for two years b/c I KNEW their intentions or thoughts about making me see her, and I figured, hell, alot of people PAY for this, and I was just talking about myself for an hour everyweek. lol. Granted, this 'counseling' is different from 'relgious bootcamp'. No one can make you do anything (and I definately am not referring to changing your orientation here) if you don't want to. You just have to take the consequences involved, but in the end, if you do what's right by  you when dealing with those sideshows, you'll be alot stronger for it.

And Nick thats awesome though that your jrotc sergeant is cool. Nowadays it seems like a non-issue in the military but you're definately right that you still have to be careful- unless you can magically make everyone you come into contact with love you and be your best friend. ( I like to think I can do that but I know I'm kidding myself)
Posted on: November 5, 2008 - 7:29pm #9
I haven't come out to my parents yet, although I'm almost positive my mom knows. My little brother knows I'm not straight, because he heard my friend talking on the bus and of course he asked me in front of my cousins. Awkward. xD

My mom's actually really amazing with the GLBT , she says "It doesn't matter who you love, whoever makes you happy" and she's told me "I don't care who you love, if it's a girl, guy, if they're black, white or purple, I'll love you". So I'm thinking I got it off easy with the parents. A guy I know came out and his parents kicked him out, I mean... It's ridiculous, how can people do that to their kids? *Shakes head*