My brothers Wedding...uh-oh

Posted on: July 24, 2008 - 1:57pm
My brothers Wedding...uh-oh
Last saturday was my brothers wedding and naturally family would be here.

I havent specifically come out to any of my cousins or extended family.

1 because i never see em
2 because i dont feel the need

SOoo anyways.

My cousin Krissy comes up to me. Im expecting her to say hi give me a hug as usual and then go about her business welllll
instead she comes to me no hi no nothing and is like......

So wheres your girlfriend??

Im like what are you talking about?

 so shes like you cant lie to me im your big cousin so where is she???

Soooo i introduce Smurf to her and she was wicked nice and just awesome about it all

which was just shocking because shes racist or at least used to be and then on top of that im a lesbian i really thought itd be bad. but that went great...

thennnn her sister Amy comes to me same exact routine.

but later i talked to Amy about everything and she was so cool asking me questions and just really into it all and it made me feel soo much more comfortable with myself it was just great...


finniest part is later krissy tells me when her dad asked her if she knew her cousin was a lesbian

her reply

was YEA ONLY SINCE SHE WAS 12!!


i just thought it was hilarious...


but i mean really??? am i that obvious..that she knew since i was 12???


but yea...good times...apparently i dont have to do the coming out my mom apparently did all that already...thanks mom...kinda


Posted on: July 25, 2008 - 12:02am #1

Haha.. that's funny. XD Glad it worked out so well!

My parents tried to say they knew, but I don't think they did until I came out. Then all of a sudden, everything I did seemed a bit more gay. -.- Yea. XD

Anyway, this thread is about you, not my silly parents. =P It's funny how both your cousins do that. Did other extended family folks know too? Do they all now know?

Due to Facebook, some of my cousins now know I'm gay. And I know some of my relatives have gay friends, but having gay friends and having gay relatives can be very different things... still worried, I am.. ^^"

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Posted on: July 25, 2008 - 2:48am #2
lol that was cool of your mom doing that for you. :)
Posted on: July 26, 2008 - 4:37am #3
Yeah...my mom 'outed' me to her side of the family too 'accidentally'. All IS well, but I think she did it one way or another b/c she didn't like keeping something from them. go figure :P

"The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about."- Oscar Wilde
Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 11:08am #4

That's great!  My parents outed me to my Dad's side of the family, and I think the general consensus right now is that I'm not actually gay, I'm just saying it to spite my father, lol, tho my mom has recently stated she doesn't think I'm actually gay, that my friends just talked me into it, LOL.  If that's the case I SO want to have heard that conversation.  This is also interesting because when I first came out my mom said she knew it was coming, but whatever, I don't really have to deal with it that much.  Thank god for severing financial ties and complete independence.  Although, I totally want to say, every time I hear this, I could introduce you to a couple of guys that will very much assure you that I'm gay, lol.
Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 1:29pm #5
Yeah. My grandpa says I'm not gay, its my friends influencing me. Funny then because my closest friends are all straight (but not narrow, lol). lol I agree with your last sentence, EyesoftheOcean. Well, all of it really lol


"The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about."- Oscar Wilde
Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 2:12pm #6
Looks like you had your work cut out for you. Moms have a funny way of surprising you with stuff like that.
Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 2:19pm #7

It is so interesting how families initially react to the news that their child is gay and then as time passes how they respond to it.

My parents absolutely flipped out when they discovered I was gay. They sent me to "get straight" seminars and Christian therapists, etc. It was nightmarish. They told me "we can never accept this, but we will always love you".

Well, seven years later, my Dad just helped me and my boyfriend of 3 (going on 4) years move into our new apartment together. I took him [my boyfriend] to my grandfather's 80th birthday party yesterday (a little background on my dad's side of the family can be summed up in 3 C's: Cowboy, country, conservative. Some are racist, some are homophobic, some are simply ignorant as they come) and everyone enjoyed his company. He's definitely a part of my family (both immediate and extended).  

I guess it just goes to show that time does change everything.

"That which is to give light must endure burning"
- Viktor Frankl

Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 2:24pm #8

that is wonderful Psychboi!  you pretty much described my family exactly.  I can only hope they'll develop to where your family seems to be.  It gives me hope, though I'm not holding my breath.  Fortunately for me, I don't have to have their approval to be happy, it would just be a nice plus.
Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 2:29pm #9
You just put my thoughts into words as far as an extension of my statement on time changing everything.

Sometimes time does not change our circumstances at all. However, our perspective towards our circumstance can and often do change over time. I'm glad that you managed to find a source of internal strength and self-pride and could get to a place where your family's approval wasn't necessary for happiness. For all the times my parent's said they'd pray for the day I'd "come around", I thought to myself, "yeah, right back at you", Lol I guess we see who's prayers got answered :p


"That which is to give light must endure burning"
- Viktor Frankl
Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 3:05pm #10

There's such a thing as a general consensus on whether or not you're actually gay? XD haha.

My parents also declared that I was just confused, but it seemed more like they were confused. Oh well. They're getting better about it - aka. not really broaching the subject. And then my mom will occasionally ask if I really like the.alphy ('cuz we're together) and I'll say yes. And she'll ask if he really likes me. Then I say yes. And she shudders. Teh funny. It's as if she's hoping that one day I'll realize I don't like guys or something. Oh well..
 

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"No one has ever said that life is to be easy. Only that it is to be lived."
- Grandmother in "The Road to Rankin's Point" by Alistair Macleod 
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Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 3:13pm #11
Haha, collective denial - ain't it a bitch


"That which is to give light must endure burning"
- Viktor Frankl
Posted on: July 27, 2008 - 10:23pm #12


O, trust me, in my family, there is ALWAYS a general consensus, doesn't matter what the issue, lol.

lol, only for those of us not in denial, lol, the collective seems to find it to be a bit easier when in, in fact, a collective.

I love phrases like, "It's just a phase" or "He's just confused".  I always get this image of seeing my boyfriend and saying, "Oops!" and then falling into his pants, lol, and then a flash forward to my eightieth birthday and blowing out the candles, and the looking over at him, and saying, "O crap!  I guess it was just a phase".

The inner strength aspect of things has been a wonderful thing to discover, not only for myself, but I can see that some members of my family are witnessing it, and while they aren't there yet, they do have the potential to come around one day. 

lol, your mom's reaction makes me laugh a little, I can just picture the shudder, and my cousin does the exact same thing.  I think it's good that you can at least mention boys to your parents, or mom at least.  The response I usually get is, "I don't want to hear about it."  That can hurt when you really love someone and want to share them with the other people you love.  It also sucks because I feel like I've hit the boyfriend jackpot!  Not only do I love him, and not only is he very much in love with me, but he's also fit's the perfect profile of someone you would bring home to the folks, lol.  O well.