Did he really?? lol

I had a funny thing with the people in my physics program. Several of them started wondering, and maybe noticed my facebook at some point. Before I came out to them, they would make references about this one guy, a physics major who was in a frat. They'd text message me and ask if I thought he was hot, or ask weird questions like that. They'd also try to subtly hit on me (the guys)...It was so strange. (Though I always played dumb, just to frustrate their efforts.)

Oh, and one of them randomly started giving me a shoulder massage to test me. But, I have personal space issues, so I cringed! =P

What a great story! That seriously cracked me up!

I do find it somewhat "weird" I guess when people I casually know (like coworkers or classmates) ask me, mainly because I assume people know. I don't perceive myself as being "outrageously gay" (psh whatever that may be exactly) but I don't pretend that I'm some hyper-masculine adonis either. In anycase, my philosphy towards that is, if they ask that question, they already know the answer to it (lol just think about it, how likely is it to randomly ask someone if he is gay if you don't otherwise think so? You're just confirming what you already suspected). Therefore, I don't feel a driving need to confirm what most people already know :p

LOL, that is funny, I had a similar but slightly different experience with one of my friends, lol.  We were dancing together at our other friend's wedding, and I told her, and she yelled, "FINALLY!" then she smacked me across the face and said, "I'm sorry, I've been wanting to do that for five years."  Then she jumped on top of me to hug me and we both burst out laughing.

My usual reaction from friends was basically, "Um, duh, now what were we talking about?"

I'm masculine enough that people that don't know me very well question it, but I'm with Psychboi, If they feel the need to ask the question, they already know the answer, or know someone who does.  The only time I tend to try and advertise it is when some poor girl is pretty obviously interested in me (usually the youger naieve type, the fag hags, before they develop their hag perfection), but once they know the interest usually switches to becoming my best friend, lol.  Whatever works. 

Wow.... Yeah I had the shoulder massage thing happen to me in high school during class before I came out. I was like "don't touch me!" Because I was already getting increasingly paranoid. I think that was one thing that sort of made me believe I had to come out before rumors were started or something.

YES you would think they know...in my experience though, around people I have to be closeted by...I'm generally good enough at confusing them, that when they ask, and I answer no, they believe me. As I understand from some of their comments. (and well, I don't lie THAT blatantly...)

I'm with you on the not pointing out what people already know. It gets to a point where well, you've already done more than telling them the 3 words ever would :P

And....hag perfection?? lol

"The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about."- Oscar Wilde

It's a newly researched state in females, a blossoming of development into personal perfection as inspired by having many gay friends, or just one, but hence, hag perfection.  Usually the development involves dating and/or liking a gay guy, closeted or not.  I have several friends that participated in the research, lol.

Lol! Hag perfection. Now there's a new ambitious goal for those hag-wannabe's. XD

I have no such funny coming out story to share. I'm just imagining Wrage's friend bouncy off the walls in the room. hehe.. that would've been odd and funny at the same time.
 

 

Oh, I have a funny one.  I had already told my close friend MacKenzie that I was bi, so at a party I mentioned it in passing because it was relevent to an anecdote I was about to share.  However, dear old MacKenzie had quite forgotten, so she gasped and said very loudly "YOU'RE BI!!?" in front of all the assembled company.  It was embarassing but also funny, and now I look back on that only with fondness.

Lucky no one there created a scene! Refering to the earlier post, I'm partially hag-less now! So sad...

You don't need no hag.. =P A partner is good enough. Yups. ^_^

 

a partner and a hag are two entirely different things. They serve two different purposes. You can't replace one with the other. =P 

very very very true!

and why are you partially hag-less?  my hags have all scattered across the country, but they're still my hags of course!

Since I'm in a different country now, it's more difficult to be fully connected.

XD That's a good strategy. Have hags everywhere you go! Then you won't ever be hag-less. lol. Alphy should've thought of that.. Then maybe he wouldn't be hagless.. =P
 

 

*taps foot at alphy* I've had to restruction my hag-ness at the LACK of you.  But yay, I get to pester you here now!

As for coming out to friends stories, I had some funny moments in the first few years, mostly with getting about a million questions from my roommates and all, but I don't really have any fun ones lately because I don't bother anymore.  It's on my facebook, which everyone has, and it's just not a real issue often.  Ahaha.  Even if people remain oblivious!  I actually have no clue how they manage that, but when I mention something relating to it I get @_@ faces more often than I'd like.  Haahaha.  Had an interesting conversation with my roommate a few months ago about it all, but nothing that makes a good story, sadly!  I think being bi just...doesn't get the stories anymore because it's become so "mainstream" as an in-between phase.

All hags are not created equally! I can't just replace them like that! So there.

I'm reminded of how you (Meg) and I had so much difficulty coming out to each other. We were so terrible, it was hysterical! XD 

I have gotten much better at it!  You, however, were RIDICULOUS.  You'd been on OM with me for AGES before you finally sucked it up and told me! XD

In reverse, all fags are not created equal, not to call you a fag or anything but to turn the phrase around~ I will never have another who is so bizarre as you.  English and Physics.  HONESTLY.  Where did you come from.  I have missed you and you fail at telephones.

I had a friend get angry at me because i didnt tell him first, and told other people before him.  Ahh the wonders of an all boys, catholic, private high school.

continuing on from what juju_beanz said...i have had a lot of friends get angry at me 4 not tellin them first..and wondering y it took me so long 2 say it...as they figured that me being so open and and getting angry when people used the term ' fag or gay' (90's tragic payouts) was an obvious sign..lol not so clear 2 me

Ah.. the wonders of jealousy to get told first. lol. At first, friends would ask who I've told first, and you can sense their minds churning over that answer to figure out whether to be jealous that they weren't (or were) first or to be more preoccupied by my actual coming out to them.

My "outness" has merged into who I am now, so usually coming out nowadays is more of a subtle thing, where you get glimpse of shock in their face as they quickly remove that expression to make it seem like everything's a-ok. Other times, it's more a "duh-you-didn't-know?!" kind of coming out. Fun times. ^_^

 

omg, why are straight people so dumb haha. As if it's an honor to be told first?? Isn't it enough to be told at all. Maybe they should've asked you if you were gay first, muahaha! 

 The best coming out story I have was when I was at this summer academic program. I was slowly coming out to everyone, there were about 35 of us so it's a was a pretty small tight-knit program. A bunch of us went to dinner one night and I forget how it came up but we started to talk about my girlfriend and me, and this girl was just oblivious and looking really confused. So I turned to her and said "I'm gay" and she goes "WHAT THE HELL?! YOU'RE GAY?!" I swear to you the whole restaurant went silent for like thirty seconds. It was super busy and the ovens are in the actual dining area so it was pretty loud then silence. My face went so red and I almost died, but now I look back and laugh about it. 

Haha... that's an awesome scene.. XD Although it must've been pretty awkward and unnerving when it happened, not to mentioned possibly dangerous... >_> lol.

I guess everything went well from there on?

haha yeah it was fine after. Okay so I just remembered I totally told that story incorrectly. she didn't say "WHAT THE HELL? YOU'RE GAY?!" She said "AW HELL NO!" haha.
Because I remember I came out later to a few other people who were there that night but not at my table. 

yeah but the convo went like this:
friend who knows: so you're girlfriend is coming to visit soon right?
*girl who doesn't know looks confused*
Me: oh...I'm gay
girl who just found out: AW HELL NO!

After that night we would do a rendition of "aw hell no" after finding out things we didn't believe.

Aww... but the first version was so much more sensational.. XD 

haha! i say ignorant people irritate me, but they sure can be a source of laughter! lol

I had a friend who knew I thought I was straight, but he thought I should be a lesbian (this was last year). He gave me shit about it all the time and it made me really uncomfortable. Then, over the summer, I found out that I'm bi. And I when I told him he said "YES!!!!!!! I KNEW IT!!!!!" To which I replied..."Oh shit, YOU were the one I wasn't supposed to tell..." Hahahahaha.

And he continues to give me shit every day. Hahaha

just me parents know... no idea how friends would react to it.. and i know from some that they dont like gay/bi ppl and always make stupid comments..
Ohwell, aslong as i dont have a bf/gf they dont need to know ;)

So when my son started coming out to people and word got around a man here in town (who obviously doesn't know me very well) askes me "so how does a straight guy deal with having a gay son" I told him that I've seen some deal with it well and some stink at it.  Then he asks "no I mean how did you deal with it when you found out, were you pissed"  So then I had to explain to him the facts of life.  What really messed with his head was when I told him that it did double the requirements for our father son chat since I had to tell him what to do with a girl and what to do with a boy.  It was too funny.

I remember when i told my friend.... I couldn't say it, so i wrote it down.... she looked at it, and said "oh". That was about it.  I told her in the art room at school, and i guess after i showed her the paper, we wadded it up, and tossed it aside, because that was freshman year, and my senior year we found it under a table, and i still have it.

Aw thats pretty cute. I as well get the "oh". Like it didnt matter, why should it matter though =p? Well for me.... I go by don't ask dont tell. Usually it made things a lot easier that way.. Until a certain point  lol.  I'm out to all my family... My favorite though was Gigi my cousin (like my best friend). We havent seen each other for years. I moved to Florida and stayed at her place.  When I first came out to everyone, I had an obssesion with rainbows, and  the male insignia. Anything that would make people assume XD.
(hade a double male insignia, rainbow colored)
Gigi: Oh jojo whats that?
joel: Oh its the male sign... Yeah.. Two of them..
Gigi: Omg.. Jojo do you like rainbows?
Joel: Yeah I do! Look its so pretty!
Gigi: Jojo do you like rainbows? (smiling)
Joel: Yeah hello I have one.

Lol after that, finding out I like guys apparently made her happy. Followed by : Why are all the good looking ones gay!?
Haha good times =D! Other cousin said I knew it, I always felt so comfortable with you.

I had it easy, most of my closest friends are either gay or bi, so when I told them I was bi-sexual they were all like "Took you long enough."
I love my friends.

 Being bi has always been interesting for 30 years now. Straight people assume that I am straight and gay assume that I am gay and they are both surprised when they find out. Many time people have assumed that I have "switched teams" or changed and I have never changed sometime I dated girls and sometimes boys.
But it has led to a lot of confusion on the parts of others.

Hmm... When i came out to Ashlee (my bestie for nine years) she flipped out, and hates me now =/ When i came out to Hailey her reaction was "Really??? Omg i would have never guessed XD haha. Don't worry 'bout it, i love ya like a sibling :)" (yay) when i came out to Rhiannon (hehe same name as me^^ cool right? XD) she was like "hm. I thought you were bi..." When Dean wanted to know, he was just disappointed (he wants to date me XD sucks for him -_-) The rest of my friends that i'm comfortable with knowing, i didn't actually tell them, but Savannah did when we were dating. (Botch>-<) So anywaay. It really depends on the friend i told. >.> They all had different reactions ('cept for CJ's. It was the same as Hailey's)

 For me, most people dont know yet, but its already been each variety of reactions. "aha! iknew it!", "really? no way", "oh.", "that makes sense. i always kinda wondered.". I suppose i shouldnt be surprised. 

For reasons that are too lengthly to explain, i cant tell my parents. some of you who are more experianced may differ.
Anyway, its sorta weird having most of my friends knowing,  and little of my family knowing. i dont know whats normal, but it seems backwards.