*Complicated* My new beau!!!

Posted on: June 20, 2010 - 11:03pm
*Complicated* My new beau!!!
 So, here in lies the complication...

Matt I have known since high school.  But, from my moving around so much and out of state, plus with his joining the military and then moving to Richmond I sort of lost track of him.  i hadn't heard much about him in a very long time, even with talking to friends that were in the same circle.  He just vanished.

Come to find out he has kept an open ear to anything involving me!  He is bi.  I didn't even find that out till I moved away.  I mutual friend told me in a conversation involving him when I blurted out that I had a huge crush on him.  Woot!!!

Needless to say, I' has since turned into something more!!  haha!  I am not so sure he knows that,,,  But, then that is going off track from the complication.  So, back to the topic at hand!

He's in a relationship that is well...  Kinda open.  He has a girlfriend whom is bi, she has a girlfriend... Haha!  Then there is Matt, he wants a boyfriend and I am his prospect.  haha!  I wasn't okay with it at the beginning, but after a while...  I realised I was perfectly fine with it as long as I was the only guy.

He seems to be perfectly fine with it.  But, now since this mess...  Haha!  We've got alot on our plates and I can't even tell if he likes me at all, even though he says all the time he wants me around.  It's just an aggravating mess especially with knowing Felicia (his girlfriend cheated on him)  Gah!  I had to come clean to Matt the other day, so he knows about it.

Mind you all three of us are at the same place right now.  If Felicia would have to leave, she would have no choice but to go back to Richmond.  If that were the case, in the end it would be for the best.  Her children are there and currently she is in a custody battle with her Mother.

She will never get her kids back if we keep getting ourselves in these pickles with no money and no place.  You know?  So, anyways... I think I covered it all.  We'll see how things go, he has kissed me...  So, I still see a little hope there.  I don't feel single and I am not sure if I am with him, but for now... He's all I got and so far, neither one of us are going anywhere.

So, technically I am both single and taken.

CM
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Posted on: June 21, 2010 - 12:24am #1
Complicated, that is.. But if you're happy "with" him then that's absolutely wonderful!^_^
I hope things work out for the best!^_^
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Posted on: June 21, 2010 - 7:41am #2
 Poly relationships can be a challenge but they are doable. I have been in a couple long term poly situations. Take it slowly and remember that communication is the most important thing. Make very clear what the relationship entails. Clarity here is very important.
Posted on: June 22, 2010 - 1:11am #3
Well, now there is a new mess.  Matt and Felicia are currently outside discussing the matter at hand as to whether or not she stays.  Though, Matt has made it perfectly clear he wants her to go back to Richmond.

Hmm!!!  It's so very complicated.  Alright, when I skipped town to Richmond a couple of weeks and lost my job in the process, anyways...  Felicia had one of her ex's come over, well needless to say they went into another room.  Don't really need to say more.  Felicia told me that Matt had given her permission.  I didn't question it.

With their personal relationship I have tried to not let myself get too involved.  Matt questioned me about what happened while we were there when I returned.  Technically, it was not the correct question to ask.  Left it too open and besides, she had said it was perfectly fine.

When we came back...  She also had an affair with a friend of ours.  For whatever reason she felt the need to tell me.  I can't lie to him, haven't figured out why.  And because of Matt and I with our past and the new relationship we've talked about.  Not only did I feel obligated to tell him due to the fact I feel taken but I also felt I was obligated to tell him because first and foremost we are friends.

He questioned the friend today and the friend called Felicia.  So, the cat is completely out of the bag!

All I know is with Matt and I, well I guess we are sorta kinda technically dating.  Given the conversation I had with him today.  When he explained to me that the reason he hasn't tried to pursue me more was Felicia had kept preoccupied with the strife she had been stirring up.  Hindering him from actually being able to express himself more openly to me.

Either way he doesn't want me going anywhere and he wants to be with me if I will still have him with all the confusion.

Of course I will still have him.  I care for him and if friendship is all I can have, then I will be fine with that.  I've known him far too long to let all this cause an issue that shouldn't be there in the first place.

Meph! *le sigh*  It's just crazy and soooo hard to explain in detail the entirety of the relationship and situation.  But, this is pretty close to it. Haha!  A soap opera or prime time Dawson Creek scandel.  lol
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Posted on: June 22, 2010 - 12:55pm #4
So, yea... The stuff pretty much hit the fan last night.  And guess what I woke up to them being in the kitchen doing dishes...  Had some work I promised my dad I would do...  Guess who happened to tag along???  Felicia, not really sure what her motives are for tagging along when she is pretty much in the way, but I am sure they aren't good.  More than likely she's afraid I'll tell Matt more of her secrets.  But, then...  She shouldn't have kept those kind of secrets in the first place.

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Posted on: June 22, 2010 - 2:55pm #5
 Just an observation..... there is a good chance that she is using you to share her secrets with him. Creating strife might be her way of keeping his attention. I would recommend that you look at your relationship with him and not even worry about her games. Don't allow your relationship with him to become mentally entangled in with her relationship to him because that allows her some control over your relationship rather than just her own.
Posted on: July 7, 2010 - 1:09pm #6
Wow, props to you I could never fall into this situation, I'm completly and totally jealous and I do not share well haha. But always keep your heart in mind, there can't be a we without a you! =)
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