So I went to PTown a few weeks ago and it happened to be bear week. Anyone else ever have this experience. All of the big dudes walking around who are very masculine but also happen to be gay or bi. (bad week for fashion but the gym was crowded I'm sure) There is often an assumption that same sex attracted men are supposed to be effiminate or really want to be female. Often confusing us with transfolk. It is the standard Hollywood sissy factor where the entertainment caractature has become the idea of who we are are to the general population but what is worse is that a lot of times these ideas become the ideas for people on how they are supposed to act if they are same sex attracted. Oh well.
All in all it was an interesting day since I am a people person anytime I can be around thousands of people is a good day. And though I myself find nothing attractive in the general bearish look I'm glad that they are there. They really are becoming more present but a lot of that has to do with the fact that the guys from the60s, 70s and 80s are older now and just tend toward being more bearish.
So when I was a kid I was lucky i that I had a really large masculine uncle who happened to be partnered with a total queen so I had no idea that one or the other was the norm for gay or bi men. But most of my friends only had the effiminate ideals etc to steer by so many of them were very effiminate because they equated that with gay/bi.
I'm glad that isn't the case anymore and people are freer to be themselves and so we can be femme or bearish or androgynous etc and still be a man.