Two Spirits

Two Spirits
Hello,
Yesterday I enjoyed a presentation by two people from the native two spirit community and was able to speak to them afterwards. I enjoyed it very much.
A point was made that in most of the Native North American languages there were more than two genders and that some languages recognized as many as six distinct genders. These genders all had social roles to play and were honored.
It was also cool from the standpoint of the discussion of marriage where mixed orientation marriages were common with men who were idnmetified as male/hetero might take a wife who was of one of these genders and who my be physially male and not socially identified as such and that each of themn kept their own identity.
But I thought thast these ideas of more than two genders being recognized wouold be of some interest here.

 oOo, this does sound interesting rob, do tell more.
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What intrigued me was the issue of gender and marriage. A person may have the plumbing of a male but may actually express a nonhetero male gender and this person would be taken as a wife by a man who expresses a very masculine gender and functions in a typically hetero male way but the fact that his wife is not a trypical hetero female in gender does not in any way effect  the perception of himself as a man. Same things when it is females and non female genders. Just very interesting. From my standpoint most of my relationships have been mixed orientation through the years and the perceptions of others change acoring to who I am dating so if I am dating a gay male people think that I am gay, if I am dating a straight woman people think that I am straight, if I am dating another bi perspon people think that we are cheating on one another, if I am dating a lesbin people think that she is now straight and if i am dating a srtraight guy people think that he is bi or gay.
I find the whole idea that these people were very sex positive and accepting of issues of personal identity to be very cool. Plumbing was not automatyically the frame for gender identification and they had no ideas about sexual orientation as socio sexual identities. People were identified by their social roles and who they slept with or what their plumbing was had little to do with it for many of the first nations.
Imagine if the perception of who you were, your masculinity or femininty  as seen by others was based solely on who you said you were. With non idea of who you "really" are but just on who you act as and what you do among your people. Imagine if who you chose to sleep with had no bearing on how others percieve you or identify you. Imagine more that two gender catagories and no concept of sociosexual orientative catagories.
 wow, that would be like just... wow. there's no other words for it. sounds so perfect.
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