Im thinkin i must not be doing my job if this is the thought proccess happening....

other than that i dont see a problem with it..

the way I see it isn't any different than anything else. If I want to go see a movie by myself, b/c my partner is doing something else or doesn't want to see it. Big deal. However, if I really enjoy going to movies, and she enjoys something else, it would only be a problem if we never wanted to do something together. I guess thats the idea of 'we don't have to do everything together. lol 

I mean, what's so wrong about pleasuring yourself? I don't even see watching porn as being a problem. More goes into having sex with another person and that may not be what someone is after at some point or time. I also don't think if someone watches porn that means they're even attracted to, let alone want to be with, one of the stars, or that they want to do what they're doing.

I think masturbation has an unfair and untrue reputation as something people who 'can't get any' or are somehow inadequate do. Or of course men- then its typically 'ok' by society. My thing is- If you don't touch yourself, you sure as hell ain't touching me! lol. It would be a problem if a party was masturbating instead of being intimate and affectionate with the other person consistantly- but that would probably be due to some underlying issue anyway. Also, I would think both people could learn alot about the other sexually by watching the other masturbate.

I think that masturbation is a very healthy and important thing. If someone has an extremely low sex drive and doesn't want to then that's their thing, but I see nothing wrong with it if someone wants to. What exactly do you mean sacred ground? like now that we're together my body is yours and I'm not allowed to touch it? Well what happens in the shower then? sorry... random thought.

omg let there be masturbation!!!  my girlfrend does it all the type cuz you know who you just aren't in the god damn mood?  well, if they are, they gotta do something or the temptation is fucking annoying.  yea, I'm definitely up for masturbation in the relationship.  'd rather that then her fucking going out and fucking soemone else.

I find it VERY interesting that no males have commented on this post. I wonder why that is....

In any case, there's nothing wrong with masturbation within a relationship, assuming that it isn't taking away from it.

A follow up question: Is it ok to masturbate via "cybering" or webcams while in a relationship?

I didn't comment because I hadn't caught up with the posts yet! For the first question, I think there's nothing wrong with masturbating in a relationship. Some people want sex more than others, after all.

As far as "cybering" goes, I think that goes somewhat beyond masturbation. So, unless it's agreed upon by both parties from the beginning, I'd say that it's probably something to avoid.

The next level would be whether it makes a difference if the cybering or webcams were free or paid for, lol! =P 

Mastrubation while in a relationship is pretty usual. I don't get the whole Cybering thing myself and don't understand it. That is most likely because computer communication cam to me at a later age than to most around here. If my wife or partner were doing it I wouldn't be botherd but I find no attraction there for me.

With cybering, I think that has to be a decision with both people in the relationship. Personally I would not be ok with it, but some people wouldn't mind.

Masturbation in a relationship? Of course that's fine. In fact, if I had a partner who didn't want me masturbating, I'd get the hell away from him because I would consider him a paranoid control freak. My BF and I both definitely masturbate. Frankly, he turns me on some much that I pretty much have to jerk off if I find myself thinking about him alot when he's not around. And I know he's pretty much the same way about me. He'll often tell me about the fantasies he had about me that he masturbated to, LOL.

We also both watch porn. I write porn, too. Sometimes specifically for him, but not always.

Now, CYBERING is different, because it involves a third party. Neither of us happen to be into cybering, but we do have an open relationship. If one of us wants to do something with someone else, all we need to do is ask, first.